Travelling is a time of togetherness, bonding and fun… right?
It can also be a time of foreign challenges, grinding irritation and compromising expectations that can take its toll on even the strongest relationship. Here are a few handy hints to keep feeling the love across the borders and time zones…
Let go of the need to see everything and take joy in the pleasure of just being together. Don’t get too caught up in those must-see bucket list locations. Sleep in, enjoy each other’s company and go with the flow.
Having some sort of understanding what everyone’s expectations are is always a win-win. Do they prefer shopping to bungee-jumping? Learn about the extents they are willing to go to as well as their limitations. Don’t forget to go your own way for a day too. That way, no one is raining on anyone’s parade.
DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
It’s amazing how fast the little things can suddenly get on your nerves. Talk it out and certainly don’t sleep on it. Taking some time out alone for a wander on your own is as important as sharing the good times.
FIND OTHER PEOPLE
Talk to the locals. Learn about their culture and values. Striking up a conversation with the people who coincidentally happen to live around the corner is a great start.
Whether you blow the budget at a Michelin-starred restaurant, or indulge in a packet of fish and chips with a bottle of wine on the beach, remember that the most important thing is your intentions. Most of the time the most romantic spots are rarely the ones you would never have imagined. Spontaneity that can lead to a magical memories.
The kids don’t need to know how much the adventure is designated ‘for them’ – especially if you need a good behaviour bargain. If all else fails, remember that many locations have quality nanny services at reasonable prices. Most agencies offer references.
KEEP A SENSE OF HUMOUR
Things can go badly wrong, get frustrating or embarrassing fast. A laid-back attitude can make a huge difference in keeping your pride and relationship intact. After all, the worst situations make the best stories.
It is hard to imagine travelling with someone with whom you cannot communicate. Be good company and travel with cards and conversation as well as a good book.
Love is not the answer to all the obstacles you may face on the road – but it sure helps! Bon voyage.